Who are the kindred (arhaam) with whom one must uphold the ties of kinship?

 

Allaah, may He be exalted, and His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) have enjoined the upholding of the ties of kinship. 


My question is: 


Who are the kindred with whom we must uphold the ties of kinship? Are they on the father’s side, the mother’s side or the wife’s side?.

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly: 

The scholars
differed as to the definition of the kindred with whom ties of kinship must
be upheld. There are three views: 

1-    
That it means one’s mahrams
(those whom one is forbidden to marry)

2-    
That it means those who will
inherit from you

3-    
That it means all blood
relatives, whether they are heirs or not. 

The correct
scholarly view is the third one, that it refers to all blood relatives – not
relatives through breastfeeding – on both the father’s side and the
mother’s. 

As for the
wife’s relatives, they are not kindred (arhaam) for the husband, and the
husband’s relatives are not kindred for the wife. 

Shaykh ‘Abd
al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked:  

Who are
one's kindred and relatives? Some people say that the wife’s relatives are
not kindred. 

He replied: 

The kindred
(arhaam) are the blood relatives on your mother’s and father’s sides.
They are the ones meant in the verses in Soorah al-Anfaal and Soorah
al-Ahzaab in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“But
kindred by blood are nearer to one another (regarding inheritance) in the
decree ordained by Allaah”

[al-Anfaal 8:57; al-Ahzaab 33:6] 

The closest
of them are fathers, mothers, grandparents, children and their children, no
matter how far the line of descent goes. Then the next closest and the next
closest of brothers and their children, paternal uncles and aunts and their
children, and maternal uncles and aunts and their children. It is narrated
in a saheeh report from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him) that someone asked him: “Whom should I honour, O Messenger of
Allaah?” He said, “Your mother.” He said: “Then whom?” He said: “Your
mother.” He said: “Then whom?” He said, “Your mother.” He said: “Then whom?”
He said: “Then your father, then the next closest and the next closest.”
Narrated by Imam Muslim in his Saheeh. And there are many similar
ahaadeeth. 

With regard
to the wife’s relatives, they are not kindred of her husband, because they
are not his relatives, but they are kindred of his children from her. And
Allaah is the Source of strength. 

Fataawa
Islamiyyah (4/195) 

The
relatives of each spouse are not kindred of the other spouse, but they
should still be treated kindly, because that is part of the good treatment
of the spouses towards one another, and it is one of the ways of increasing
love. 

Secondly: 

Upholding
the ties of kinship may be done in many ways, such as visiting, giving
charity, treating them kindly, visiting them when they are sick, enjoining
them to do what is good and forbidding them to do what is evil, and so on. 

Al-Nawawi
(may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 

Upholding
the ties of kinship means kind treatment of relatives according to the
position of each of them. Sometimes it may be by giving money, sometimes by
serving them, sometimes by visiting them, or greeting them, and so on. End
quote. 

Sharh
Muslim (2/201). 

Shaykh
Muhammad al-Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 

Upholding
the ties of kinship depends on what is customary among people, because it is
not defined in the Qur’aan and Sunnah in precise terms of type or amount.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not limit
it to any specific thing, rather it is general in meaning. Hence reference
should be made to what is customary. Whatever is customarily regarded as
upholding the ties of kinship is upholding the ties of kinship, and what the
people customarily regard as breaking the ties of kinship is breaking the
ties of kinship. 

End quote. 

Sharh
Riyadh al-Saaliheen (5/215) 

And Allaah
knows best.

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